By Aniekeme Finbarr

Some 5, 6 years ago I really use to get worried that I had up to 5000 friends on Facebook and never did I record more than 100 likes or comments on my posts.

As silly as it sounds, I use to wonder why Mark Zuckerberg calls them my friends. Such friendship!

My dear, you do not have any true friend on Facebook, on Instagram or in life. Earthly friendship is fickle and conditional. It can crumble at any time.

I have discovered that nothing excites man like the fall of another man, even a friend. Take the social media for instance, see how people quickly react anytime a scandal arises, we call it beef. Friends and enemies unite because there is a new spot to kill. See how people tag others, call them on the phone, inform others of the newest scandal and pretend they are not happy with what has happened, even your friends.

Humans just like to see others fall, especially the same people you call friends. It makes them happy, and somehow consoles them that their situation is not the worst.

I don’t know, but maybe that is why we love boxing, wrestling, action movies, even comedy, we love to laugh at people being killed, bullied, boxed, people’s downfall, people’s mistakes, we love to hear people ridiculed.

Folks, I do not know how many true friends you think you have. In this wicked world of envy, jealousy and greed, live life as if you are in the midst of wolves. Don’t lose guard. You cannot be an island, but you can be smart in the midst of people.

Don’t live for the cameras, don’t live to impress others. Take decisions that are convenient for you first. Protect your heart and your whole self. The same people who praise you today will scorn you tomorrow.

Never get carried away by likes, comments and commendations, as long as you keep winning, they will keep coming. Focus on winning in life.

You hardly see people genuinely show happiness when something good happens to others. Why? One of the virtues lacking in today’s world is that we cannot appreciate the success of others without feeling bad.

When you tell your secret to ANYONE, anyone at all, just know you have shared it to the world.

Be focused, spend your time wisely, love and serve God, read the Bible (atleast the book of proverbs and learn wisdom), pursue your goals.

And when you are down, stop lamenting to friends, they will betray you one day, keep a cheerful spirit, confuse the enemy and keep smiling.

I repeat, earthly friendship, even marriage, even family is conditional. Your only true friend is JESUS. “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. You are my friends if you do whatever I command you” (John 15:13-14).

For this friendship, Jesus “endured the cross, despising the shame” (Hebrews 12:2).

Be friends with Jesus who shares his all with you, his knowledge, his glory, his power, his riches, his majesty. “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you FRIENDS, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you” John 15:15.

Draw closer to Jesus and experience true joy. What a friend we have in Jesus!

Aniekeme Finbarr